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What are BDSM contracts?
A dominant and submissive Agreement. This document serves as an agreement which defines in specific terms the power exchange relationship and interaction between two individuals.
Creating a BDSM contract is an important step in establishing consensual and respectful boundaries within a BDSM relationship. Although it's worth noting not all relationships or playmates require a contract
However, it is crucial to note that each individual's preferences and limits will vary, so it is essential to have open and honest communication throughout the process.
Here is a 10 step guide on how to create a BDSM contract and what to include:
Step 1: Open Communication
Start by engaging in open and honest communication with your partner about your desires, limits, and expectations within the BDSM dynamic. Discuss your roles, boundaries, and any specific activities or scenarios you wish to explore.
Step 2: Educate Yourself
Before creating the contract, educate yourself about practices, safety precautions, and consent. Understand the risks, physical and emotional safety measures, and the importance of establishing a safeword or signal.
Step 3: Consent and Negotiation
Consent is crucial in any BDSM dynamic. Discuss consent and negotiation with your partner, ensuring that everyone fully understands and agrees to participate. Consent should be enthusiastic, informed, and ongoing throughout the relationship.
Step 4: Discuss Roles and Responsibilities
Clearly define the roles and responsibilities of each person involved. Outline the expectations for the dominant and the submissive, including power exchange dynamics.⚖
Step 5: Define Hard and Soft Limits
Hard limits are activities, scenarios, or actions that are completely off-limits and must not be performed under any circumstances. Soft limits are activities that may be negotiable under certain conditions. Both parties should clearly communicate their hard and soft limits, ensuring they are respected throughout the dynamic.
Step 6: Establish Safe Words or Signals
Choose a safeword or signal that allows the submissive to communicate their discomfort or need to stop immediately. It should be a word or action that is easily recognizable and distinct from any other dialogue or role-play. Make sure all parties involved understand and agree upon the chosen safeword or signal.
Step 7: Discuss Physical and Emotional Safety Measures
Address physical and emotional safety measures in the contract. This includes discussing safe practices for bondage, impact play, sensory deprivation, aftercare, and any other activities you plan to engage in. Prioritise safety and well-being throughout the contract.
Step 8: Define Duration and Termination
Determine the duration of the contract. It can be for a specific period (e.g., three months, one year) or ongoing until mutually terminated. Include provisions on how to terminate or modify the contract and the process for renegotiating terms, if necessary.
Step 9: Confidentiality and Privacy
Establish rules regarding confidentiality and privacy. Discuss whether you will share your BDSM relationship with others and what information, if any, can be disclosed. Respect each other's privacy and the boundaries set in place.
Step 10: Sign and Date the Contract
Once you have finalised the contract, print it out and sign it in the presence of all parties involved. Include the date to establish a reference point.
Regularly review and revisit the contract to ensure it reflects the evolving needs, desires, and boundaries of all parties involved.
Remember a BDSM contract is not a substitute for continuous communication and consent. It serves as a framework to outline boundaries and expectations, but ongoing dialogue, trust and respect are essential components.
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